I am a humble family man and I love my wife very much. She gets whatever I have. My grandfather was married for at least three decades. He loved his wife very much. He gave me some valuable lessons on love. The first thing he taught me was and I quote “Your money is her money, her money is her money.” What a profound lesson that was. My money, what I work so hard for belongs to my wife. (WTF!) How could give what I earned away to my spouse? But all my life I swore I would take the advice of my grandfather. Now I am married for almost a decade and I thank my grandfather for my happy marriage.

There is a famous quote “For those who love are poor” or something like that (^_^). Me and my other half never had much. we work and scramble to have what we got. When I got paid I took my grandfather’s advice and gave her a fair share. With not just trust but love. What she did the money is her business but I can say I never went hungry, I always had clean clothes and more times than not I had smoke in my lungs. I believe she would put the money to a good cause, she never let me down. There have been plenty of times when she let me be an old boy and hang out with the fellas and even financed parties. Every time I get paid the money goes straight to her because she knows how to put my money to better use than I do. So I fork over the cash and she makes sure the all of our affairs are in order.

I had a female friend that said “A women is her man’s leader.” Found out that her words would be true. A woman has a way to have a certain insight into most matters that a man only couldn’t navigate. There is a reason why in the English language that was words like “partner” or “couple”, we use this word to express togetherness. Partners are always seen together. Working together in harmony with each other. A married couple by law are bound together by the authority of any government. Rights that a married couple has are handed down by court order. So who best to trust your finances other than your spouse? When you decide to marry someone then you have to be in love with them and love can’t exist without trust. Putting your money in their hands is an act of true belief that your partner has your back. If they fail you then maybe you should reconsider the boundaries of your union.

My grandfather was a great man. He lived a long full life and gave freely his advice, time, and money. A true gentleman and gangster he preserved the old-school values by sharing them openly with anyone who would listen. He taught me well into his later years. I believe his word never failed me, so I say and I quote “Your money is her money and her money is her is her money.” I hope you love and are loved. Good luck and a happy married life.